What do I do when my son hates me?

Apologize

1. Own your feelings and take responsibility for them.
2. Connect the feeling to the action (explain in your apology why you felt the way you did)
3. Apologize for the action.
4. Recognize your child’s feelings.
5. Share how you plan to avoid this situation in the future.
6. Ask for forgiveness.
7. Focus on amends and solutions.

How do you get your child to stop hating you?

Kill it with kindness. “It sounds counterintuitive, but the best way to counteract ‘I hate you’ is to say, ‘Well, I love you,’” she says. A negative reaction will only reinforce the outburst. “If they don’t get a reaction at age six, they may say it again, but they won’t still be saying it at 10.

How do I deal with an angry son who hates me?

Put your efforts into changing yourself, not your child. Let go of your resentments regarding his harsh and angry words and the appearance that he hates you. Understand his need to flee-and forgive him.

What does “hate” mean to you?

It’s important to remember that when coming from a child, “hate” doesn’t translate to the passionate dislike we understand as adults. It’s an impulse word signifying frustration or loss of control.

How do you deal with a 10 year old who hates you?

Kill it with kindness. “It sounds counterintuitive, but the best way to counteract ‘I hate you’ is to say, ‘Well, I love you,’” she says. A negative reaction will only reinforce the outburst. “If they don’t get a reaction at age six, they may say it again, but they won’t still be saying it at 10.

Is it OK for a tween to say I Hate You?

Tweens do grasp the meaning of “I hate you” and they’ll deploy it for maximum impact. But the advantage of having an increasingly articulate child is that sometimes she can’t help blurting out what’s really bothering her. “Sometimes what she says right after ‘I hate you’ is important,” says Daniels.